Win Back Your Ex Girlfriend

While there are lots of things you might have done to make your girl break up with you, there are some really big mistakes that might seem impossible to overcome but you can win back your ex girlfriend even if you think you’ve made the worst mistake of them all.  It isn’t always possible, but it might not really be as over as you think.

Suppose you cheated on her.  For most women, that is completely unforgivable.  You know why?  Women, like most men, have to know and feel secure that they are THE center of your universe in order to feel safe with you.  If you veered off course, you have taken a serious whack at her ego and self-image.  You have robbed her of that ability to feel safe and important.  Unless you fix that, she will feel that misery every time she looks at you.  Each time you hold her hand she will be thinking if you held the other woman’s hand the same way and then the hand holding is no longer something to enjoy, it’s just another reminder of the pain she feels.

It is possible, though, under the right circumstances and with the right approach to win back your ex girlfriend even if you were unfaithful.  It absolutely will not be easy so if you want to succeed, you are going to need to commit yourself to healing that piece of fragile ego you bruised pretty hard.

The first thing you need to do is stop seeing anyone else.

If you have continued with the other woman or begun seeing someone else because you’re bored or alone, it’s time to stop.  You can’t convince your ex that you want her back while playing the field.  That approach has more holes than a piece of swiss cheese.

The next thing you need to do to win back your ex girlfriend is to make amends for your big mistake.  Not repeated amends, not a million apologies, not roses sent to her over and over everywhere she goes but a heartfelt letter that explains how badly you feel for having made the biggest mistake of your life.  You have got to show her you realize that you know how much you hurt her and that you never meant to cause her any pain.

You can do this in a letter or even a nice, gentle apology card.  Don’t beg for her to give you another chance, just make her feel like a queen and explain that you are miserable for having caused her so much pain.  Under no circumstances should you mention the other woman, her name, or any specifics about the mistake.  That would just be like rubbing salt in the wound.  You can say something about how you’d like another chance but you realize that the ball is in her court.

Finally, give her a little time to heal.

See how she responds to your attempt to apologize.  One of three things will happen:

• She communicates back that in no uncertain terms will she ever see you again.

• She communicates back that she was very hurt but might consider reconnecting.

• She doesn’t respond at all.

If you receive the first response, at least you have your answer.  It still doesn’t mean the complete end.  It might just mean she hasn’t yet healed enough to be open to seeing you.

The second response is a great opening in which you can follow through, slowly, with maybe a very casual get together for lunch or a walk.

The third response is one of the most interesting.  She wasn’t mad enough to tell you to leave her alone but may not yet be ready to see you again.

Regardless, while waiting to see the response, you need to brush up on your relationship skills so that you can show her how much she means to you and can get her to feel safe with you again.