How to Win Back Your Ex Girlfriend
When it comes to love, there is both happiness and misery and not a lot of in between. Some of the worst misery comes from having broken up with the girl you really wish you could be with again. It is possible to learn how to win back your ex girlfriend with a few basic steps if you think she might be open to reconnecting. These steps take time, concentration and a little education in the secrets to a happy relationship.
It is a fact that men and women think differently and knowing the differences can improve your chances of getting back together. We communicate differently, think differently, even do things differently. It’s part of the attraction between men and women and these differences play a role in getting back together.
When a woman breaks up with a guy, more than likely there were some clues leading up to the break up that you either missed or ignored thinking that things would return to normal. By the time you have realized how important those things really were to her, it is too late to address them.
If you’ve been thinking about how to win back your ex girlfriend you can follow three easy steps to test the water and see if she is at all open to the idea.
THREE STEPS
Act like you don’t want to get back together. This doesn’t mean you should be rude or mean, it just means stop desperately chasing her, her friends, or her family for contact or information. If you think you are being sly about asking her friends what she’s been doing or who she’s been seeing, you’re only fooling yourself. Stop the text messages, emails, Myspace hits and anything else you’ve been doing to try to get her attention. We’ll call this the “I’m so crazy I can’t stay away” approach.
Acknowledge that you’re past the break up. You can do this with a simple email several weeks after you’ve stopped the “I’m so crazy I can’t stay away” method you were using before. All it has to say is something simple like “I’m sorry I got so crazy there for awhile. I fully understand the reason for the break up now and I’m okay with it. Just wanted to make sure we could still be friends. Hope you’re doing well.” That’s it – no romantic quotes, no reminders of the great songs you loved together, and no invitation to get back together.
Prepare to be calm and sophisticated for your next meeting. That’s right. You’re going to need a next interaction if you want to get back together and you can’t be all goofy eyed and drooling when you see her next. You need to be able to show you are the old you – the you she fell in love with when you first met and that guy was not moping and sad and feeling rejected.
To get yourself ready, take the time to understand how men and women relate, how to repair a broken relationship, and make notes of the reasons your girl fell in love with you so you can get those things back in your life. Knowing how to win back your ex girlfriend can be difficult and it doesn’t always work so to really be successful, you need to be armed with as much information as possible.
Here’s the author of the Magic of Making Up giving more detailed instructions for the first steps to take when you want to know how to win back your ex girlfriend:
