Exactly Why DO You Want Your Ex Back?

© Bogenfreund

All of us at one time or another have romantic thoughts about an ex. That doesn’t always mean we want to travel that road again. If you broke up do you know exactly why you want your ex back or are you just thinking the grass is greener when there are two people on it than when you’re standing alone on the grass?

Well, I may have mangled the saying (intentionally), but I hope you get the drift. Sometimes we want an ex back for the wrong reason. We want them back because it would be better to be with someone than to be alone again. Being alone is only fun for a short period of time, if that.

So if you’re pursuing an ex love, have you put some thought into why you think it would be the best idea to get back together? I think there are some really, excellent reasons to do so – but I also think there are some really bad ones.

Great Reasons to Want Your Ex Back

• You truly love them
• You think you could build a great, stable future together
• They knew the REAL you, cared for you, and respected you
• If they hurt you emotionally, it was an accident
• They were independent yet thoughtful
• There was chemistry and romance

Bad Reasons to Want Your Ex Back

• It really sucks having to eat alone
• Your life was easier when they were there to carry some of life’s responsibilities (chores, shopping, laundry)
• Your parents think you should get back together
• Your friends think you should get back together
• You thought they had a really cool job
• There’s a big party/wedding/event coming up and you wanted to show off how good the two of you looked as a couple

Now, those reasons aren’t all bad, they’re just bad if you don’t have any of the good reasons to add to your list, too.  The right reasons to get back together with someone should all revolve around love, hope, happiness, and security.

And, if there are right and wrong reasons for fixing your relationship are there right and wrong ways to go about it the whole process of getting back together?  You bet.

Right Ways to Get Back Together with an Ex

• Communicate with maturity
• Remain calm
• Don’t rush
• Have a plan
• Know your feelings
• Rule with your head AND your heart, not just your heart

Wrong Ways to Get Back Together with an Ex

• Stalk
• Beg
• Cry
• Annoy endlessly
• Make unreasonable promises
• Apologize for no reason

That dang heart of ours just gets carried away sometimes and we most often do all of the things that keep pushing the other person away.  Keep your calm and follow a plan that helps your head do the work and you just might be able to get your ex back faster and easier than you think.